From Our Hearts to Yours
Anytime you are present at home is time you can love your family and care for your dwelling place. Here are a few practices that will help you stay focused on your house:
- Your prayers—Coming before God in prayer lifts the work of homemaking out of the physical realm and transports it into the spiritual realm. Prayer helps you line up your desires with God’s plan for you.
- Your purpose—Resolve to be a home builder. Purpose in your heart and in your prayers to live out this role and assignment from God. Then put items on your to-do list that will start and improve the process.
- Your presence—Your presence at home is how a home is built, maintained, and enjoyed. You may have a job or responsibilities that take a chunk of your time each day, but when you are home, determine to be all there. Give it your all. Delight in loving your home—the place where those you love reside or visit.
Don’t guess about the next step and hope for the best. Get a clear view of the right path as you follow God’s wisdom. Elizabeth George takes you on a journey through the 31 chapters of Proverbs, which cover the matters closest to your heart, in Proverbs for a Woman’s Day.
Most people and families—and maybe you too—are simply trying to stay afloat financially. That makes it hard at times to think about giving some of your hard-earned money to your church and to others. But you must realize you are not giving to others or even to a church. You are giving to God as an act of worship.
When it comes to your giving, the issue is not how much you give, but your heart attitude when you give. This is a part of what brings about God’s blessings upon you. As Proverbs 11:25 states, “The generous soul will be made rich, and he who waters will also be watered himself.”
As you fill your soul each day with God’s Word, your heart will overflow in a multitude of good works. Only it won’t be work! And it won’t be because you have to. And it won’t be to get something back in return. No, giving from your heart will be pure joy, motivated by pure love for God, who has given so much to you.
In Proverbs for a Woman’s Day, Elizabeth George takes you on a journey through the 31 chapters of Proverbs, which cover the matters closest to your heart, including how to…
- trust in God when it’s hard
- find fulfillment in your marriage
- train and enjoy your children
- conquer your bad habits
- pursue lasting success
From Jim’s Heart—
Communication—or the lack of it—is a significant issue in most marriages. Here are some little things you can do to make a big difference in your communication with your wife:
- Choose to listen. Listening is an act of love. When you listen to your wife, you are communicating nonverbally that she is important to you.
- Talk about what interests your wife. Communication is not a one-way street. Talk about what you know is important to her. Make an effort to know what type of books she likes to read, her hobbies, and her giftedness for ministry. And don’t forget to ask, “Honey, how did your day go?”
- Observe your wife’s nonverbal communication. Be sensitive to your wife’s mannerisms. Like you, she gets tired. She lives with a large amount of stress. She gets behind. So look for those nonverbal hints that tell you to save some communication until later. And when you goof, a sincere “I’m sorry” goes a long way.
- Mind your manners with your wife. It’s hard, but try not to interrupt her while she is talking to you or another person. And never, never, never belittle or put her down in front of others, especially your children.
- Identify speech patterns that must go. Do you tend to raise your voice when you communicate with your wife? Do you have an angry tone when you talk? Are you communicating like a drill sergeant?
What wife wouldn’t respond positively to a husband who practiced this type of communication?
In A Husband After God’s Own Heart, Jim George will help you build a richer and deeper marriage as you discover how to:
- Win your wife’s heart through loving leadership.
- Build a happier home through wise guidance.
- Enjoy better communication through careful listening.
- Increase your family’s spiritual growth by example.
- Excel at your job without sacrificing family priorities.
From Elizabeth’s Heart—
According to online sources, communication appears consistently on the top-ten lists of reasons couples divorce. I’m sure you have had issues with your husband’s choice of words or means of communication. And I’m just as sure there have been times when he has struggled with your methods of communication.
The first way to improve communication is easy: You must pray. Your act of praying will change your heart—and speech, and it will involve God in your husband’s speech.
The second way to improve communication in your marriage is much harder: You must deal with yourself. Evaluate how much you may be contributing to the downward communications and speech spiral between you and your husband. Try to put your finger on what you may be doing that affects your husband negatively.
The next time you go head-to-head verbally, before you lash out at your husband like a cat with her claws out, and before you jump in to vent at your husband about his speech, and before you lecture him, and before you spout out Bible verses, just stop. Then immediately start praying. “Lord, what is the right thing to do here? What is the right thing to say? The right way to act? Lord, help me. I need Your wisdom.”
This kind of response puts the brakes on an escalating argument. It gives you time to come up with a better plan and much better words for communicating with your husband. Clear, gracious words and a calm demeanor will make it easier for your husband to listen to you.
In 15 Verses to Pray for Your Husband, Elizabeth shares how praying the Scriptures is especially powerful and will…
- bring deeper unity to your marriage relationship
- sharpen your awareness of God’s work in your husband’s life
- give your husband a confident assurance you’re on his side