From Our Hearts to Yours
From Jim’s Heart—
Have you ever noticed that, as a man, asking for or offering forgiveness is often very difficult? It’s almost as hard as asking for directions! Why is that?
Well, I can’t answer for you, but for me, pride is often the culprit, especially in my marriage. Here’s how it goes: I say or do something stupid to Elizabeth that’s—shall I say … a little gruff? Then, instead of immediately asking for forgiveness and being done with it, my pride says, “No, I was right about what I said,” or “Well, it wasn’t that bad!”
Regardless of my wife’s response, as long as I fail to label my deed as “sin” and ask her forgiveness, there is a cloud over our relationship—all because I wasn’t humble enough to admit I was wrong.
Let me encourage you to learn to quickly admit wrong and ask for forgiveness … no matter what. Keep the slate clear and the communication line open with your wife. Forgive each other, “just as God in Christ also has forgiven you” (Ephesians 4:32).
In A Man After God’s Own Heart, you’ll discover God’s perfect design for how you can make a difference in all the key areas of your life:
- Marriage–what it means to love, lead, and protect your wife
- Children–the keys to training them up and shaping their hearts
- Work–modeling integrity and diligence in the workplace
Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace,
along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.
(2 Timothy 2:22)
It’s crystal clear in the Bible that God wants His women—young, old, and all ages—to be pure. Titus 2:3-5 tells the older women in the church to teach and serve as role models to the younger women. It’s amazing that there are only six topics listed for these ladies to teach to those who are younger. And guess what? Purity is one of them: They are to teach and “encourage the young women to…[be] pure” (NASB).
Purity does not come naturally! That’s because of our sin nature, which means the opposite of purity is what comes naturally! So you must choose to avoid people, places, and practices that might tempt you toward wrong and impure thoughts and deeds.
What else can you do? A daily dose of the Bible will have a powerful purifying effect on your heart and mind. Reading the Word will lead you to a purer life, and it will expose you to scriptures that give good advice to young adults—like Psalm 119:9: “How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.”
Another step you can and must take on the road to purity is confession (1 John 1:9). To confess your sin means to agree with God when you have failed to live according to His standard of purity. When you think an impure thought, confess it. If you hear something impure, confess it. When you see something impure, confess it. If you say something impure, confess it. Jesus, the one who died for your sins, is ready to forgive you!
When it comes to purity, you want to guard your …
… physical purity. This will guide how you behave.
… mental purity. This will dictate what you think.
… spiritual purity. This will determine the depth of your devotion and worship.
Like all the areas of your life, God expects you to manage your purity. He has entrusted you with this most precious possession. Guard it well!
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It’s true. Beauty on the inside counts with God! However, there are a few additional steps we can take to represent Jesus Christ well so that what others see in us honors Him (Titus 2:5).
Dress up—Queen Esther, chose to wear her royal robes into the presence of her husband, the king (Esther 5:1). The Proverbs 31 woman wore silk and purple (Proverbs 31:22). These women dressed with a touch of class, wearing what was right for the occasion and proper in her day and time.
Fix up—You can make an effort to create a pleasing appearance. Think about the people who fill your day. What will they see? Fresh face, hair, and makeup? Clean, wrinkle-free, spot-free, odor-free clothes? A bright smile and a little color here and there?
Clean up—You’ve heard that cleanliness is next to godliness. Plus Proverbs teaches that “ointment and perfume delight the heart” (27:9). Both are pleasant and heartwarming and indicate that someone has gone to the trouble to spruce up.
Look up—Throughout your day look up to the Lord. Pray to Him, think on Him, serve Him, worship Him, do all unto Him, obey Him, and love Him with all our heart, soul, strength, and mind (Luke 10:27). As you are consciously aware of His presence, His beauty will shine through your efforts. And then He is glorified (Matthew 5:16)!
In Beautiful in God’s Eyes, Elizabeth George guides women through the popular Bible verses in Proverbs 31 to show how God defines beauty and reveals His plan for a woman’s success.
From Jim’s Heart—
L ove your wife unconditionally. Your love cannot be cause-and-effect in nature, with an attitude of “if she does this, I’ll do that.” Love does not keep records (1 Corinthians 13:5). It gives, expecting nothing in return.
O rder your priorities. Next to your love for God, you are to love your wife. She is to be your highest human priority. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife” (Genesis 2:24). What have you done lately that would make your wife know she is your Number-One human priority?
V alue the many sterling qualities in your wife. She married you, so she definitely has a lot going for her! Praise her often, and praise her publicly. One husband said this to his wife before a whole city: “Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all” (Proverbs 31:29).
E njoy the wife of your youth—sexually, physically, and as a best friend. She, and she alone, is to be the love of your life. Never let your eyes wander from her beauty (Proverbs 5:15-19). Your vow to love your wife was a covenant made with God and with her (Proverbs 2:17). So keep it!
Jim and Elizabeth share their 40-plus years of marital wisdom and experiences to help couples grow closer to each other and to God in A Couple After God’s Own Heart. Pick up your copy today to discover how you can enrich your marriage by looking at the lives of key couples in the Bible.