Encouragement for Women

It Takes Two to Fight

 

Fight

 

Every married woman learns sooner or later that it takes two to fight as a couple. It’s sort of like a boxing match. There are two fighters in the ring. The husband wearing blue trunks over in his corner, and the wife in pink shorts in the opposite corner. When the bell rings, two fighters are expected to come out and fight until one is beaten or knocked out or gives up or loses.

But what happens if, when the bell rings, only one fighter comes out? It’s obvious: There is no fight. There can be no fight. Why? Because it takes two to have a fight.

When a discussion gets hostile or uncomfortable or out of control, there are several things you can do to create calm. You always have the right to ask for time to think about whatever the issue is. Take time to pray about it and to search the Scriptures about it. And seek counsel about it. Be calm. Pray. Soften your voice and be gracious: “A gracious woman retains honor” (Proverbs 11:16). God will give you all the grace you need to be gracious.

 

Don’t guess about the next step and hope for the best. Get a clear view of the right path as you follow God’s wisdom. Elizabeth George takes you on a journey through the 31 chapters of Proverbs, which cover the matters closest to your heart, in Proverbs for a Woman’s Day.

 

Are You a Home Builder?

Home

Anytime you are present at home is time you can love your family and care for your dwelling place. Here are a few practices that will help you stay focused on your house:

  • Your prayers—Coming before God in prayer lifts the work of homemaking out of the physical realm and transports it into the spiritual realm. Prayer helps you line up your desires with God’s plan for you.
  • Your purpose—Resolve to be a home builder. Purpose in your heart and in your prayers to live out this role and assignment from God. Then put items on your to-do list that will start and improve the process.
  • Your presence—Your presence at home is how a home is built, maintained, and enjoyed. You may have a job or responsibilities that take a chunk of your time each day, but when you are home, determine to be all there. Give it your all. Delight in loving your home—the place where those you love reside or visit.

Don’t guess about the next step and hope for the best. Get a clear view of the right path as you follow God’s wisdom. Elizabeth George takes you on a journey through the 31 chapters of Proverbs, which cover the matters closest to your heart, in Proverbs for a Woman’s Day.

How to Communicate Better with Your Husband

Communicate

From Elizabeth’s Heart—

According to online sources, communication appears consistently on the top-ten lists of reasons couples divorce. I’m sure you have had issues with your husband’s choice of words or means of communication. And I’m just as sure there have been times when he has struggled with your methods of communication.

The first way to improve communication is easy: You must pray. Your act of praying will change your heart—and speech, and it will involve God in your husband’s speech.

The second way to improve communication in your marriage is much harder: You must deal with yourself. Evaluate how much you may be contributing to the downward communications and speech spiral between you and your husband. Try to put your finger on what you may be doing that affects your husband negatively.

The next time you go head-to-head verbally, before you lash out at your husband like a cat with her claws out, and before you jump in to vent at your husband about his speech, and before you lecture him, and before you spout out Bible verses, just stop. Then immediately start praying. “Lord, what is the right thing to do here? What is the right thing to say? The right way to act? Lord, help me. I need Your wisdom.”

This kind of response puts the brakes on an escalating argument. It gives you time to come up with a better plan and much better words for communicating with your husband. Clear, gracious words and a calm demeanor will make it easier for your husband to listen to you.

 

In 15 Verses to Pray for Your Husband, Elizabeth shares how praying the Scriptures is especially powerful and will…

  • bring deeper unity to your marriage relationship
  • sharpen your awareness of God’s work in your husband’s life
  • give your husband a confident assurance you’re on his side

An Ever-Burning Faith

Faith

In just three verses God gives us all we know about Anna. She was a prophetess and a godly woman who loved God into her sunset years. Of her, Luke wrote: [She] did not depart from the temple, but served God with fastings and prayers night and day (2:37).

  • Anna was a widow. Having lost her husband after only seven years of marriage, this woman knew sorrow. But she apparently allowed her suffering to strengthen her faith. Anna spent her long life in faithful service to the Lord night and day.
  • Anna was a senior citizen. At age 84, Anna still looked for “redemption in Jerusalem” (Luke 2:38), for the Messiah, for the Savior—for Jesus! How blessed she was when God rewarded her years of faith by allowing her to see the Hope of Israel!

The life of Anna shows us the fruit of long-term faith. Faith that “is the substance of things hoped for” (Hebrews 11:1).

Nurture an ever-burning faith as you look to God for the hope of Jesus’ Second Coming.

 

In One Minute With The Women Of The Bible, Elizabeth George shares how God comforted, helped, and provided for the women in the Bible. This book will help you grow more and more aware of His amazing love for you.

Sailing into God’s Plan

Plan

We don’t know her name, so let’s call her “Mrs. Noah.” She spent her days loving her husband, Noah, raising their three sons, and caring for their home. Daily life was simple …  until “the call” came from the Lord: “I will establish My covenant with you; and you shall go into the ark—you, your sons, your wife, and your sons’ wives with you” (Genesis 6:18).

Grieved over the wickedness of mankind, God decided to destroy humans, the animals of the fields, and the birds of the air. Because Noah trusted and walked with God, God chose to save him and his family and told him to make an ark.

As Noah moved forward in obedience, Mrs. Noah may have mused, What can I do? How can I help my husband fulfill God’s plan?

  • Pray. She could pray for mankind as God’s judgment loomed, for her husband as he served the Lord, and for her family to also follow God.
  • Encourage. Husbands thrive on their wives’ cheerful, hope-filled words of support. She could encourage Noah in his work.
  • Believe. She may have wondered about the ark and the possibility of a flood, but she could choose to believe.
  • Help. She could help with the animals and gather the food they would need for their mysterious voyage of faith.
  • Follow. She could—by faith—follow her husband’s leading day by day (for 120 years, the 43,800 days it took to complete the ark!)… right into the ark of salvation that transported her family into an unknown future.

Lord, help me find strength for today and hope for tomorrow as I sail into the plan You have for me.

Start or end your day with powerful reminders of God’s work in the lives of women in the Bible and find encouragement for your own faith journey in Elizabeth George’s book, One Minute With The Women Of The Bible

Married Women … Speak In The Plural

Married

Have you ever had a conversation with a woman who, by the way she is talking, you can’t tell whether she is married or single? Sure, she has a ring on her finger. But as she talks, everything she says is “my daughter,” “my house,” “my last vacation.” I always wonder, Hey, aren’t you part of a married couple?

A mentor of mine taught me the lesson of speaking in the plural. She married for the first time at age 47. Immediately, she went from being an independent woman and CEO to being a wife. And amazingly, her language changed overnight. Everything in her life became “we.” For instance, when someone asked her “Where do you live?” her answer was “We live in San Diego.” The more time I spent with her, the more I got the “we” message!

You and your husband are a couple. Your life now has a partner. You now have joint interests. So it’s “our house,” “our daughter,” “our vacation.”

Say along with Joshua: “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord” (Joshua 24:15). Then back up your talk with your actions. Worship together, pray together, and serve together. Walk through life arm-in-arm, facing and enjoying life’s challenges—as one. That’s exactly where you want to be.

 

In 15 Verses to Pray for Your Husband you’ll discover key Bible passages you can use as a springboard for lifting your husband up to God. Praying these is powerful because you’re praying what God desires for your spouse.

Marriage: Stepping Into The Unknown

From the beginning of time God gave a divine principle for marriage: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24).

Leaving and cleaving is always a test of faith for a wife. It tests her … 

  • Obedience to God’s Word and His way.
  • Faith in God’s leading through a husband.
  • Trust in her husband’s leadership.
  • Commitment to her husband.

Are you a wife? If so, is your husband the Number One person in your life? Is there stress and conflict surrounding your marriage and your parents? Maybe it’s time to realize and embrace your status as a wife—that you are no longer accountable to your parents, that you are free to be bound joyfully and securely to your husband.”

Are you a mother of married children? If so, have you released them to follow God’s leading with their mates?

 

Start or end your day with the powerful reminders of God’s work in One Minute With The Women of The Bible. You’ll find encouragement in these devotions for your own faith journey as you meet women such as…

  • Eve, who reflected God’s beautiful image to the world
  • Leah, who was remembered and blessed by God in her sorrow
  • Deborah, who became a humble and godly leader in battle

Being God’s Kind of Wife

Wife

The choices you make as a wife make all the difference. But the good news is that, as God’s child you have the indwelling Holy Spirit. He will produce in you His fruit of the Spirit as you walk in obedience to Him. You can oh-so-subtly slip into nagging, whining, complaining, arguing, and criticizing until, over time, you actually become a “contentious” wife. Or you can daily aspire to be the excellent, noble, virtuous, worthy wife God describes and exalts in the book of Proverbs.

Today, as you pray for yourself as a wife and for your husband as someone God asks you to love (Titus 2:4), choose to be God’s kind of wife. Choose to put your husband first. Choose to bless him, nurture him, build him up, and help him—to love him to pieces.

Open your soul and pray for him and his day.
Open your heart and love him with Christ’s love.
Open your eyes and see him as God’s perfect gift to you.
Open your mouth and praise him for his strengths and diligence.
Open your hands and tend to his care and needs.
Open your arms and embrace him as your teammate and leader, your best friend, your partner for life.

Make your marriage a good thing.

 

A woman’s day is full of challenges and opportunities. Let the wisdom of God show you how to thrive through it all in Elizabeth’s book, Proverbs for a Women’s Day.

Working Together as a Couple

Couple

Because you and your spouse as “one flesh” are a team, ideally the two of you have the potential to accomplish twice as much by working together toward common goals. Like Solomon wrote in Ecclesiastes 4:9, “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor.”

Unfortunately, in our imperfect world maybe the two of you are not acting as one. Maybe it looks like one of you isn’t shouldering their share of the burden—or is pulling in the opposite direction, toward an opposing goal. Conflicting purposes can be counterproductive and cause you to feel like you are buried under a pile with no way out and no one to help you.

Each of you has some choices to make. You can nag, throw a tantrum, harden your heart, resent your spouse…or you can pray for the two of you to better use time so that together, you move toward fulfilling the purposes God has for you as a couple.

As a couple who wants to do all to the glory of God, get rid of negative, fleshly responses and instead, pray. When you do this, you are putting your problem in the right place—right into God’s hands. And while you are praying for your spouse, take the next step and ask God for His help for yourself—that you would become a better time manager, even an excellent one!

In 15 Verses to Pray for Your Husband by Elizabeth George, you’ll discover key Bible passages you can use as a springboard for lifting your husband up to God. Praying the Scriptures is especially powerful because you are actually praying what God desires for your spouse.

Faithful … In All Things

Faithful

Faithful in the little things.
Faithful in the large things.
Faithful in all things.

These three descriptions perfectly describe Phoebe, a woman we meet in Romans 16:1-2. She is a living example of Jesus’ statement that “he who is faithful in what is least is faithful also in much” (Luke 16:10).

Phoebe was not one of the leaders of any of the churches in and around Corinth. But she faithfully provided her vital service to the people where she lived and also in her ministry to the apostle Paul. Because of her faithfulness, Phoebe was given the responsibility of hand-delivering a letter—the book of Romans—to the church in Rome! Can you imagine the Bible without the book of Romans?

Are you faithful in the little things—like giving generously of your time and energy to your church? By helping others, you are providing a great service to God and His people. And who knows, one day God may ask you to provide Him with even greater service! Phoebe served faithfully in what was least…and proved faithful also in much.

A woman’s day is full of challenges and opportunities. Let the wisdom of God show you how to thrive through it all in Elizabeth George’s newest book, Proverbs for a Woman’s Day.

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