February 2018

How to Deal with Temper Tantrums

temper tantrum

What mom hasn’t denied their toddler a cookie and then had their normally-sweet child throw themselves on the floor and scream? Sometimes the easiest thing to calm a temper tantrum is to give in and give our child what they want. Especially when we’re running late for carpool, they’re hungry, and we’re tired!

From One Mom to Another

So how is a mom to deal patiently and wisely with a temper tantrum? Take a deep breath and choose to give your children what they need, not always what they want. After all, we know what groundwork needs to be done for the future of our children. Teaching our children self-discipline now gives them a foundation so they can live God’s way in the future.

Is it always easy to not allow a 7-year-old to stay up hours past their bedtime? Or to enforce limited screen time with our teens? I’m afraid not, but take heart. And that’s exactly what it’ll take: a heart of dedication. Scripture says that we’re to teach our children …. No matter the obstacles, the arguments, or the “Yes, but, Moms.”

For When the Days are Long

When we fail to instill discipline in our children, we aren’t equipping them to know how to control their emotions and to make wise decisions. God says to us loud and clear: teach your children and start early in their lives. Teach them faithfully and consistently. And most of all, do so from a heart of love.

Also, remember that little ones are watching and learning from you. Your personal self-discipline and self-control is important. Spending time each day with God and reading His Word sets the path of your life—thinking those things that are true, spending money wisely, reacting with calmness, eating balanced portions—and gives a wonderful example to your kids.

A Final Thought

Some days it will feel like a mountain of obstacles stand in the way of helping your kids choose self-discipline. They’ll protest—that’s normal! But a wise mom doesn’t let whining rock her decisions. God offers you His grace and strength to push through those moments. He is with you as you dedicate your time, energy, and life to Him and your family and take full advantage of the opportunity to train your children.

Dear Lord, thank You for guiding and encouraging me with Your Holy Spirit … especially when I’m tired and my kids are tearful. Help me raise my children to follow after Your own heart. Amen.

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REFLECT

“Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)

In what areas am I personally lacking self-discipline?

REMEMBER

God Has a Plan for You

God has a plan

When something terrible happens in your life, are you ever tempted to ask, “What good could come out of this?” It looks like a disaster. It feels like a disaster. Therefore, we quickly conclude, it is a disaster!”

Comfort in the Chaos

Corrie ten Boom, a prisoner in a Nazi concentration camp during World War II and a woman who desperately needed hope every minute of every day, made this statement: “Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.” We often need this reminder … as did the Israelites when they were taken captive for 70 years.

To them, it may have appeared that God was finished with them. After all, He had allowed their country to be destroyed and them to be sent into exile. This must have looked like a disaster! What good, they may have wondered, could come out of this?

God Won’t Forget You

But God did not forget His people who were suffering in Babylon. And, my friend, He won’t forget you! God had a beautiful plan to turn His people into a beautiful new people with a beautiful new purpose. He is the author of history—including your history. You are part of His grand plan—‘“I know the plan that I have for you,’ declare the LORD” (Jeremiah 29:11). And because He knows the future, and has designed your personal agenda, and is present with you, you can have boundless hope.

Put God’s Powerful Promise to Work

  • Recall … God’s promises of hope when you are discouraged.
  • Review … God’s words of hope.
  • Resist … the temptation to give into hopelessness.
  • Rely … on the God of hope and trust Him.
  • Rejoice … and thank God that you are the recipient of His hope.

And lastly, remember that no matter how bad things become, God has a good plan and He will be with you in every hour you’re in need.

RESPOND

Dear Lord, thank You that I can grab hold of Your hope, and use it to fight against defeating thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Amen.

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REFLECT
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” (Jeremiah 29:11)

I’ll recount God’s goodness in my life and the lives of those I love by making a list of His faithfulness.

REMEMBER

Ignoring Instagram – Teen Tuesday

Ignoring Phone

The mind is an amazing thing. It can carry on thousands of functions at the same time. Sometimes that’s good, and sometimes that’s not so good. For instance, when you check your phone while your parent is talking to you … that’s bad! There you are, right in front of them, and yet you’re thinking about something totally different.

Checking Out

What’s even more amazing than the mind’s capacity to wander is that your mom can tell when you’re not listening. How do they do that?! We think we’re clever. We nod at what we think is the right moment … yet they still catch us checking our phone.

Staying Focused 

Why is it so hard for us to focus? Here are just a few reasons. One is that we’re bombarded with entertainment, things, stuff. Phones have 100 different apps, games, and texting. Another is busyness. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not against being busy. But we have to make time for others between extracurricular activities, practices, and hobbies.

Ignoring Instagram

When you’re with your family or hanging out with friends, the loving thing to do is be all there, both mentally and physically. This will take some concentration and effort on your part. But we’ll follow God’s Word—“Outdo one another in showing honor” (Romans 12:10)—when we train ourselves to ignore Instagram (at least for our conversations with others) and devote our full attention on others when we’re with them.

RESPOND

Dear Lord, please help me put real energy toward giving my full attention to the people I’m with. I want to honor them. Amen.

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REFLECT
“Outdo one another in showing honor.” (Romans 12:10)

How often do I check my phone when I’m in the middle of a face-to-face conversation with my family or friends? Is this honoring the person I’m speaking with?

REMEMBER

Sweet Words in a Sour World

sweet words

Have you ever found yourself backtracking after saying or posting a not-so-sweet comment? “It was a joke! I didn’t really mean she’s ugly. She’s just way too sensitive.”

Grace-filled Words

You’ve heard it said that, “You cannot give away what you do not possess.” And, the Bible tells us that the words that we give away should be seasoned with grace and acceptable in God’s sight (Colossians 4:6, Psalm 19:14). After learning of these commands from God, I considered that the best words I could give away would be His words. But, I’d have to know them before I could offer His truth to others.

Giving It A Go

At this time I fretted, “I can’t memorize Scripture! It’s too hard.” Then I visited a friend’s home whose pet parrot sang “The Star-Spangled Banner” in its entirety. As I stood there amazed, I thought, “Well, if a parrot can learn ‘The Star-Spangled Banner,’ I can learn to memorize Scripture!”

Each of us can develop a way of remembering significant verses from God’s Word. When we’ll do this, it’ll positively impact how we think and speak.

Going From Critical to Caring

You see, our actions and words reveal our attitude. Proverbs 23:7 says that what we think in our heart, we are. Critical thoughts not only go against God’s Word, but they create actions and produce words that are oftentimes mean and harmful. That’s why it’s important to train ourselves to think loving, positive thoughts when it comes to other people. And this can be done when we meditate on Scripture.

Proverbs 31 describes a woman who opens her mouth with wisdom and on her tongue is the law of kindness. We gain the wisdom and knowledge to be like this woman from God’s Word. Let’s choose to fill our mind most often with Scripture so that our speech is gracious and wise!

RESPOND

Dear Lord, help me purposefully fill my mind with knowledge from Your Word. I want my words to nurture others with grace and wisdom. Amen.

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 REFLECT

“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” (Proverbs 23:7)

Are my words nurturing and loving toward others? Am I thinking, speaking, and acting toward them as Christ would?

REMEMBER

Entertaining Thoughts of Divorce

Divorce

For almost the first decade of our marriage, Jim and I were lost and confused—and miserable! We had little or no peace in our home. Arguments abounded. One thing led to another until we each were going our own way. Jim was consumed with his job. I was attending classes and obtaining a license in marriage and family counseling. (Can you hear me laughing? I think I hear you laughing!)

Entertaining Thoughts of Divorce

We each entertained thoughts of divorce. We were the proverbial flailing couple who was going down…and taking two young daughters with us. Why? Well, many reasons factored in, but a big one was that our love needed redirection. In the world of physics, matter is never lost—it simply changes its state. Love is like matter; it isn’t lost, it’s only redirected.

We see this with Isaac and Rebekah’s marriage in the Old Testament. Isaac’s love was directed full-on toward his wife Rebekah for the first 20 years of their marriage. But somehow it got redirected. After their twins Jacob and Esau arrived and the newness of having children wore off, their affections went from adoration…to adjusting to an expanded family…to choosing sides against one another.

Endangering Your Marriage

Children are a gift from God, but child-centered parenting endangers your marriage and family (as does being job-centered, parent-centered, hobby-centered). Isaac redirected his love onto his favorite son, Esau, while Rebekah showered her love on Jacob. Somewhere in the rough seas of marriage, this couple drifted apart.

This may be a tender topic for you. If your love has drifted … there is hope.

Engaging Your Spouse

Spend time in prayer, assessing upon whom or what you’ve redirected your love. Take a close look at your marriage and identify any potential threats that could cause division. Then, direct your love back toward your spouse. Your concern should be, “Is my love fully aimed at my husband/wife?”

Marriage is a work in progress. We can never think that our marriage has arrived, that we’ve reached the stage where bliss will reign without any effort on our part. But we can keep our marriage alive and vibrant–and away from the brink of divorce–when we direct our love toward and nurture oneness with our spouse. Make it a priority to find new ways to show your love.

RESPOND

Dear Lord, my heart’s desire is to communicate freely with my spouse and that there be no barriers between us. Guide us to keep our love directed toward one another. Amen.

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REFLECT

“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.” (Song of Solomon 8:3)
On separate 3×5 cards, write out the area of biggest concern for yourselves as a couple.

  • Swap cards for a week
  • Carry your spouse’s care with you all week and pray daily over the contents.
  • In a week, share updates with each other.

REMEMBER

Valentine’s Day Gift Idea

Valentine's Gift

Are you looking for a Valentine’s Day gift for your husband? How about committing to these three things? They can make a big difference in your marriage!

Compliment Instead of Complain

It’s easy to get wrapped up in frustration over what our husband doesn’t do, rather than focusing on all he does do, isn’t it? The next time we’re tempted to complain about our husband’s lack of time or help, let’s instead thank him for a specific way he’s blessed our family. To do this, we’ll need to keep our eyes and ears—and heart!— open so we catch the ways that he expresses his love.

Care about His Day

A gracious way to begin each day is to simply ask our husband:

  • What can I do for you today?
  • What can I do to help you make better use of your time today?

Then we standby with our day planner, a willing heart to schedule his needs into our day, and a prayer to help in the ways he sees he can best be helped.

Consider Love and Respect

There are so many ways we can show our love and respect to our husband. Consider keeping this list (and adding your own) handy as a reminder:

  • Turn our attention away from our phone and computer and onto our husband
  • Actively listen without interrupting
  • Ask him to do something instead of demanding or telling him
  • Use gentle tones and sweet words
  • Lift him up instead of putting him down in conversations with others                     

RESPOND
Dear Lord, how can I express my love to my husband today? Amen.

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REFLECT
“It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” (Genesis 2:18)

Print this card out to give to your husband on Valentine’s Day!

Valentine Marriage

REMEMBER

Dreading Valentine’s Day

Valentine's

Valentine’s Day is next week. Are you dreading seeing friends’ social media posts of bouquets and chocolates, knowing that your husband probably won’t offer such sweet gestures? More than candies and flowers, this holiday can deliver expectations (and disappointment) we have of our significant others.

Here’s an idea … let’s take the pressure off and plan our own celebration. Jesus said to do good for others without expecting to get anything back, and He tells us in John 13:34, “As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” What does this kind of love look like? Well, it is a sacrifice of self, which includes our expectations. This can be hard as it’s opposite of how our natural mind (and desires) works.

This kind of love involves effort, not merely emotion. It requires action, not just feeling. Such love comes from God and leads us to being content: “God­liness with contentment is great gain” (1 Timothy 6:6). Contentment is not based on circum­stances, but on the person of Christ. Because we possess all the treasures found in Him, we have all we need. When we learn this type of contentment, it’ll guide our expectations and works.

So let’s put this love into action! Think of something you and your husband both enjoyed in the past and then try to recreate it. It doesn’t have to be dinner and roses. It can be tennis, watching a movie, cooking, whatever. We can keep sweet memories alive ourselves without depending on our husband to come up with a plan. Then, Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, and date nights will be filled with joyful anticipation and without disappointing expectations.

RESPOND
Lord, I acknowledge my expectations and ask for Your forgiveness for resenting my reality. Instead of idly waiting for my desires to materialize, help me proactively make plans that bless my marriage. Amen.

RENEWING RESOURCES
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REFLECT
“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:19)

I’ll decide now that it is okay to celebrate Valentine’s Day or our anniversary on another date, when it’s most convenient for everyone’s schedule. It’s not the date that’s important; it’s the celebration of another year of marriage and love that’s important.

REMEMBER

Lonelier than Ever

Lonelier

Have you ever found yourself thinking, “I thought being married meant having a companion, but I feel lonelier now than I ever did before”?

Loneliness is an issue most women struggle with, married or not. We’ll spend days alone … nights alone … even seasons alone. Husbands will travel, kids will start school and activities, friends will move, loved ones will pass. In these times of transition, solitude, and loneliness, we must lean on our relationship with God.

Before King David took the throne, he was a shepherd boy. His long days were spent in the fields with sheep—and with the Lord. How did he pass the lonely hours? David tended his flock, praised the Lord, and prayed to God (see 1 Samuel 17). He cultivated a firm knowledge of God’s powerful presence. This closeness to God helped David view his days of solitude differently—and accurately.

The same is true for you! As you run errands, do laundry, drive carpool, put in the hours at your job … remember to spend time with God through prayer. When you eat dinner alone or watch a movie by yourself, redirect your thoughts to God’s Word. When you’re close to Him, spending time in His Word, you see your situation clearly: God is there—with you, for you—to comfort you.

Physical solitude can be discouraging. When everyone else has left, let’s recall that God promises He will never leave us. And He does not break His promises. Pray for and cultivate a sense of God’s presence through prayer, worship, and reading God’s Word.

RESPOND
Dear Lord, when I feel distant from others, please draw me to Your presence. Thank You for being the one constant in my life. I trust that You are with me and will comfort me with Your faithful love. Amen.

RENEWING RESOURCES
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REFLECT
“I will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5)

Who do I know that is in a similar stage of life as I am? How can I reach out to her to share God’s comfort and ease both of our loneliness?

REMEMBER

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Elizabeth & Jim George


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