There are few things that can change a marriage the way prayer can. Over and over we witness couples whose marriage was on the brink of uttering the dreaded “d” word, unite together again in love and bliss after simply adding prayer to their daily routine.
Too often we find ourselves in a situation where things in our marriage are festering inside of us and instead of taking those things to God, we hurl them at our spouse or gossip about them to our friends and family. If we want things to change then why would we do this?
The Bible instructs us to make our requests known to God. In fact, we are instructed in Philippians 4:6 to make our requests known to God though prayer and supplication. Most of us know that prayer is the general term for conversing with the Father, but do you know what supplication means? It means to pray with a sense of need. What greater need might we have than to save our marriage if there is trouble on the horizon?
The Bible gives us many examples of others who have done this very thing:
- Isaac prayed for his wife Rebekah to conceive (Genesis 25:21).
- Hannah prayed for a son (1 Samuel 1:11).
- Zacharias prayed for a child (Luke 1:13).
- Paul prayed for the salvation of his countrymen, for the Philippians, and for Timothy.
- Jesus prayed about His death (Matthew 26:36-46).
Our Savior and these heroes of faith prayed for specific needs, desires, and requests. You and I are to do the same. Be faithful to lift up the personal needs in your life and those of your loved ones to God through specific supplications and petitions. Then watch to see how God will answer. If you really want to see some change, take your spouse’s hand and unite together in prayer. Mountains will move. Try it.
From Jim’s Heart—
While I was an associate pastor, a couple came to my office for marriage counseling. After we pinpointed several areas of concern in their marriage that needed their attention, I asked the husband to commit the couple’s desires to the Lord. As the man finished praying, I looked up to discover that his wife was crying. She explained through her tears that this was the first time in ten years of marriage that they had prayed together as a couple!
Don’t miss out on this opportunity to strengthen your marriage. Make it a point—and a practice—to come before the Lord in prayer together as a couple. It doesn’t have to be elaborate, or formal, or take more than a few minutes. Make it as simple and easy and natural as you can for both of you.
I guarantee you will both be blessed, and it will also do wonders for your marriage. After all, what is the old saying? “The couple who prays together stays together.” Prayer together is a shared spiritual experience. It is a strong tie that binds two hearts and souls together. And imagine the mutual joy you’ll experience as you witness God’s answers to your prayers … together!
Dear Lord, my heart’s desire is to unite in prayer with my spouse. I pray that there would be no barriers between us. Guide us to keep our love directed toward one another. Amen.
RENEWING RESOURCES:In Elizabeth and Jim's book, A Couple After God’s Own Heart, the couple teaches secrets to a great marriage by learning from biblical couples, such as Abraham and Sarah, Boaz and Ruth, Joseph and Mary, etc. Get started by taking their fun free challenge, “5 Ways in 5 Days to be a Closer Couple.”
When your marriage is suffering… pray! Dare to step into the heart-wrenching cries of Psalm 55. It contains much-needed instruction for your own hurting, bewildered heart.
Some of your most meaningful fellowship with God will come when you unite together with your spouse in prayer and supplication.