He who finds a good wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.
Let’s revisit your courtship with your wife. Did you strive to be her best friend? I know you did! You were probably a little jealous if she spent time with any person other than you. Did you like being in her company and doing crazy things together? Elizabeth and I were the same way—we were best friends while we were dating.
During courtship, it seems as if the pure joy of just being together will never end. But after marriage, for some reason, that seems to fade away, doesn’t it? What happened? Here’s a basic formula that seems applicable to many of us:
time + familiarity + distractions + duties = diminished interest
In other words, the demands and distractions of daily life crept into that beautiful friendship and began to erode the relationship.
How can you recapture that friendship you enjoyed with your wife while you two were dating? To begin, think back on those days. What did you do to nurture your relationship with your wife-to-be? Take a moment to write a list. Then make a commitment to do some of these activities again—the activities that helped you to become best friends. After all, after your friendship with God, your wife’s friendship is the greatest treasure you possess.