I know a L-O-T about hard times and life changes. Jim and I married in college and completed our educations without financial support from our parents. It’s not that they didn’t want to help out—they simply didn’t have the money to help us.
When I met Jim on campus, we both had part-time jobs that we kept until graduation. And since then, we have known only a very few years when we didn’t both work in some way to take care of our daughters and living expenses. I worked away from home until we had children. Then I worked at home doing transcription, bookkeeping, and other office-type work.
Believe me, we saw our lives turned upside down almost every other year as Jim was transferred every 18 months for his job. He was even activated into military service during Operation Desert Storm and the Bosnian crisis.
But I learned the most about supporting my husband’s job during ten very lean years. That decade began when Jim resigned from his job as a pharmaceutical salesman to enter seminary to prepare for the ministry. As you can imagine, those were some tough years. And our daughters remember those years too. One day my Katherine, a newlywed at that time, called and asked, “Mom, do you have any of those recipes you used to fix when we were on hard times?”
I think a lot about those challenging years. Well, one morning I was wondering how I made it through those trying times.
Making It Through
Actually, it was a trying decade! So I looked through my prayer notebook, located those years, and read through my prayer lists. And there I discovered my prayer requests for my Jim, who had four—yes, four—part-time jobs so I could stay at home with our two preschoolers.
Instead of being bitter and dwelling on the plenty we had enjoyed in the past, we had adjusted. Jim took on extra work, and I did everything I could do to keep spending to a minimum.
And...I prayed. I prayed like crazy. I felt like the man who shared the following experience, which I believe is the way God wants us to live:
“In a single day I have prayed as many as a hundred times,
and in the night almost as often.”
Friend, you can make it through any tough times you and your husband are in through God’s strength. Start now to pray for it!
Dear Lord, I am coming to You with my needs. I ask that You shower me with Your grace and favor as I pray for and support and love my husband! Amen.
In what ways do you support your husband during tough times?
At the first sign of self-pity, pray!