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Marriage is a team effort, but sometimes a team fails to function as a unit. You can’t make your other team member—your husband—do anything. So do what you can to help and honor him. Whether it’s his refusal to take his health seriously or a misuse of time or money, or a hundred other things, do your part.
Stop worrying about your husband’s faults. Instead, start focusing on what’s right about him—and express it to him! Work at changing your perspective. Recall those things that first attracted you to your husband. Consciously notice what he does that’s right, that’s helpful, that’s commendable. And, of course, compliment him and share what you’ve noticed.
Step up your prayers for your husband. It’s hard to criticize someone you are praying for. So pray like crazy! You can’t pray too much, but you can certainly pray too little. Embrace prayer for your husband as a lifelong commitment.
Talk to your husband. Instead of worrying about an area in your husband’s life, ask God to show you areas where you may be contributing to the problem. Check your actions. Check your timing. Check your words. Above all, check your heart. Then talk with your husband and ask him how you can help or how you can change.
Major on wisdom, not worrying. Wise decisions, wise actions, and wise words—all guided by God in answer to your prayers—are what will help you help your marriage.
In A Couple After God’s Own Heart, discover how you can enrich your marriage by looking at the lives of key couples in the Bible.
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Jim and Elizabeth George are bestselling authors and national speakers dedicated to helping people live a life after God’s own heart. Together, they have written over 150 books with more than 14 million copies sold around the world. For over 35 years, the teachings and steadfast example of Elizabeth and Jim have helped countless men and women:
Jim and Elizabeth George are bestselling authors and national speakers dedicated to helping people live a life after God’s own heart. Together, they have written over 150 books with more than 14 million copies sold around the world. For over 35 years, the teachings and steadfast example of Elizabeth and Jim have helped countless men and women:
When something difficult happens in your life, are you ever tempted to ask, “What good could come out of this?” The event looks like a disaster. It feels like a disaster. Therefore, we quickly conclude, it is a disaster! But God did not forget His people who were suffering in Babylon. And, my friend, He won’t forget you!
Too many times in the past I’ve told others “I’m fine” in order to hide my pain and sorrows from them. The truth is, my thoughts pulled me down so far that, in private, tears regularly streamed down my face. Are you constantly thinking negative thoughts? Being a woman after God’s own heart is all about “minding your mind.”
As a young mother, I endeavored to “train a child in the way he should go,” so that “when he is old he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). A decade later, however, I wasn’t reaping the results I had expected. Angrily, I said to God, “But this isn’t the way it was supposed to be! This isn’t the way it went for this family here or that family over there. And this isn’t the way it was supposed to be for my family!”