Wives, here a quick list of five little things that can make a bit difference in your marriage this week!
1. Thank your husband for living out his roles.
Specifically remark on a decision your husband has made regarding the direction the two of you will take. Thank him that he works hard on his job. Instead of complaining if he gets home late or puts in extra hours or goes the extra mile at work, praise him for his diligence, his desire to do things excellently, and his efforts in providing for you and your family. Let him know, too, that you notice the many ways he helps you out. These are ways that your husband expresses his love for you, so thank him! And don’t worry if he doesn’t do these things. Just keep your eyes and ears — and your heart! — open so they catch the ways that he does express his love. Then, of course, thank him!
2. Ask your husband how you can help.
Every day ask your husband two questions: “What can I do for you today?” and “What can I do to help you make better use of your time today?” Stand by with a willingness of schedule, and a prayer in your heart, to help your husband in the ways he believes he can best be helped.
3. Show greater respect for your husband.
God wants you to show your respect for your husband. So think of one way you can do just that. Then, of course, follow through. Let your admiration shine forth for all to see, especially him! Do you look at him when he’s talking? Do you refrain from interrupting? Do you ask him to do things instead of telling him? Do you practice sweet speech in your conversations? Do you need to stop putting him down when you talk to others? It wouldn’t hurt to keep a list of ways to show respect as a reminder…in case you slip up. It happens!
4. Think of a way the two of you can have fun this week.
Your marriage was founded on friendship, and you need to nurture that friendship “love” spoken of in Titus 2:4. So be creative! Your fun time together doesn’t have to cost any money — it might only cost the time to think of an activity, set it up, and make it happen. Let the fun begin!
5. Pray to follow God’s plan for a wife.
Consider God’s four guidelines for you as a wife (see Genesis 2:18; Ephesians 5:22; Ephesians 5:33; and Titus 2:4) and pray over them. Take your time and express your heart to God. Make your commitments, purpose in your heart to pursue God’s plan for you in each area, and then move ahead through your day seeking to comply with God’s blueprint for a wife. To stay on your wifely toes, pray every day to be a wife after God’s own heart!
Question: Can you share one thing from the list above that spoke to you the most?