Have you ever had a fair-weather friend? A so-called friend who bails on you as soon as something bad happens. They are great friends as long as nothing gets complicated or sticky.
Usually this type of friendship is one-way. As long as you do things their way or agree with them, everything is fine. But the minute you speak up or cross them or try being your own person, that “friend” fades away into the night.
A Good Friend
It’s a challenge to be a good friend. Being loyal means being supportive, being ready to assist and encourage. That’s why loyalty is so essential in any friendship. In the Bible (1 Samuel 20:14-17), David and Jonathan’s friendship was characterized by a solid loyalty even in the midst of adversity.
They loved and encouraged each other in the Lord. They stood together through tough times like a set of identical stone bookends. They met as young men and warriors, and our last glimpse of their faithful friendship is of David mourning Jonathan’s death. Theirs was a to-the-end-no-matter-what friendship. You can read about their friendship in.
Loyal or Fair-Weather?
How does your loyalty rate as a friend? Are you “a friend who sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24) or more of a fair-weather friend?
When others think of you, do they think of someone they can trust with their hopes and their troubles? Are you someone they can go to for wise counsel? Are you always open and willing to listen? And do you keep your word? Do you pray for your friends?
When we love people, we can’t help but pray for them because we carry them in our hearts. And when friends are far away and we’re unable to express our love and support personally, we can pray knowing that God hears us.
Jesus prayed for His disciples. Paul prayed for the believers in Philippi, the Christians in Colossae, and for his friends in Ephesus. When it comes to your friends and friendships, there are many reasons to turn to God in prayer! What can you do?
- Praise God for your friends. You’ve been blessed with special people in your life. Give thanks for them.
- Pray for their spiritual well-being and insights. Paul prayed for believers to have their spiritual eyes opened so they would recognize their spiritual blessings.
- Pray for the body of Christ, the church. Pray for your friends to make Jesus the Lord and Savior of their lives. And give thanks for Christ and His leadership.
Every prayer you lift up for your friends and for others who are placed on your heart reaches God’s ears and heart. Ask Him to use His power, might, strength, and wisdom to help the people you care about.
It’s so important to have a sister in Christ you can talk with about your faith, sorrows, hopes, doubts, and other needs as a believer. And it’s wonderful to have a friend who will pray for you—and to be the friend who prays!
God, help me to be a good and even better friend to those I know—wise, loyal, and faithful to the end. And Lord, I want to thank You for the friends I have. They are truly a blessing from You! Amen.
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Consider writing out your prayers for your friends and sending them in a text message, email, or card.
Aim to be a friend who is characterized by solid loyalty, even in the midst of adversity.